To start, I should mention, my boys are as different from one another as you could imagine twins to be. This picture illustrates it best. One piece of bread, torn in half, Max munched the one on the left, and Ty, the one on the right. Incidentally, that is how they grew in my belly too. Max on my left, Ty on the right.
No, it seems they have not had an easy ride towards their bond. It seems it has more taken work from both Max the outgoing and Ty the introverted. It seems that it has not a been quickly formed bond either, at least in comparison to other twins, though it has not yet served us when I bother to compare. For that matter, any of my assumptions of their relationships are in some way unfair as no one is fully fit to judge a relationship, except those two who actually participate in it. The thing about bonds is that they can continue to grow indefinitely, given mutual commitment. If I understand that my each of my Autistic sons grow and develop on a personal timeline, then it easily makes sense to let go of my comparisons, my assumptions, my judgements, and especially my expectations about their personal connection.
I also can't fully comprehend what an alliance between two Autistic persons feels like, what it fulfills for each of them, what mutual understanding fortifies it. I can't, but that goes back to the intimacy of relationships in general. It is between them. I can only guess, based on honest observation, and relating to as many aspects that I can. I mindfully note that they consider one another. They comfort one another. They play and laugh and wrestle. They share. They communicate. They push each other to be braver, bolder, and better. They also fight, which I hear is pretty typical, but what do I know about typical? Whether their bond is a result of the fact that they are twins, or the fact that they are Autistic cannot be distinguished by me. There are no parts to be compartmentalized. There are only two little boys whole and complete. The same applies to their communion.
With all the thoughtfulness I can muster, I am sure, it is good to be an Autistic twin. They are naturally learning to give and take support, and I think that is what Autistic people need, especially from each other. They have a natural companion in a world which isolates their kind. They have had this natural opportunity to make their first friends without judgement and meaningless social barriers, and with a whole lot of forgiveness that only family can provide. They have each other, and nothing more I can say trumps that. So, yes, Autistic twins bond, and yes, it must be good to be an Autistic twin. Lucky them. Lucky me.